They say it takes 21 days to form a habit…so on March 4th 2009 I embarked on a journey to love myself, my community and my chosen romantic partner intentionally, bravely, loudly and proudly.  And now I am ready to share the results with you!  In addition to teaching myself how to love, by transmitting my love via internet video  I was also teaching myself how to make simple yet effective at home videos using my computer, my phone and very basic editing software and how to make those videos internet accessible.

This experiment has taught me so much.  I have emerged less self-conscious about my own face, more confident about the miraculous vitality of love in all of its forms and more adept at using online video as a tool for self-expression, affirmation and  community education.

The three focus areas of my project were


for example:

(Go to www.loveforself.blogspot.com to see the whole 21 day process)


for example…

(Go to www.habitforminglove.blogspot.com for the whole 21 day process)

and Romantic Love

(Sorry loves…the whole process is for Julia’s eyes only wink!)

Browse the “life” “love” and “community” sections of this site to see some of my more detailed reflections on each process and more examples.

One of the most important things that this process taught me is that even an analog girl in a digital world can make compelling, effective video.  I don’t have to be perfect to carry the message of love that my ancestors are speaking through me and the video doesn’t have to be perfect to carry it’s message.  The magic is in the medium.   Try it yourself, and email brokenbeautifulpress@gmail.com if you want to share!

love (is a habit),


3 Responses

  1. YAY!!! I am so proud of you for completing this stage of your video blogging learning and loving journey. Your culminating presentation of the journey and content is also magnificently designed and delivered.

    (As your friend, girlfriend and member of your community)
    Thank you for this gift, example and your love!


  2. Alexis, this is just amazing. The first video is too cute, and so true. I love them all.

    As an analog old-timer myself, you give me hope that I can do some digital outreach of my own. Thanks for sharing!

  3. i should do this.
    i need it.
    very inspiring, sis.

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